Online dating has created millions of successful relationships.
It has also created an opportunity for romance scammers, married cheaters, fake identities, and professional criminals to prey on people looking for love. Romance scams continue to cost victims billions of dollars worldwide, but the financial loss is only part of the damage. Many victims also suffer emotional trauma, embarrassment, blackmail, and identity exposure.
I wrote these books to help people recognize danger before they become victims.
The Romance Detective
The Romance Detective: How to Tell If He’s a Jerk, Creep, Scammer—or Married is a quick, practical guide to evaluating the person behind the profile.
The book teaches readers how to identify fake dating profiles, recognize common manipulation tactics, ask better questions, and avoid wasting months—or years—on someone who never intended to build a genuine relationship.
The Online Dating Journal
The Online Dating Journal: How To Identify Online Dating Red Flags And Avoid Romance Scammers, Married Men & Creeps is a hands-on workbook designed for people actively dating online.
Instead of relying on memory, the journal helps readers document conversations, compare stories, recognize inconsistencies, and identify red flags before emotions cloud judgment. It turns online dating into a process of observation instead of assumption.
Blackmail Survival for Married Women
Blackmail Survival for Married Women explains what to do when an online relationship turns into extortion, exposure threats, or reputation blackmail, offering practical strategies to help protect your identity and regain control.
Knowledge Is Better Than Heartbreak
Most romance scams don’t begin with a request for money.
They begin with attention, affection, trust, and emotional investment. By the time the warning signs appear, many victims have already convinced themselves the relationship is real.
These books are designed to slow the process down. They encourage readers to verify first, trust second, and recognize manipulation before it becomes emotional or financial devastation.
Whether you’re new to online dating or have been using dating apps for years, learning how to identify scammers, married partners, and deceptive profiles can save your heart, your privacy, and your bank account.
— Frank M. Ahearn