Identifying if you are dating a romance scammer is not all that difficult. A few simple questions or thoughts can determine the truth. The hardest part for most victims is accepting that the relationship is fake. Therefore, a third-party such as myself can help you see what you do not want to see.
A. You met a person on the internet and are in an online relationship.
B. The person works on an oil rig, an engineer, a UN doctor, soldier, or another profession in a foreign country.
C. Communications are limited, meaning they rarely call and never video.
D. You never had a five-minute clear face to face video.
E. Their mobile phone camera is broke.
F. They are expecting business funds, but it never arrives.
G. Disaster befalls them, and they need money.
H. They ask you for money.
I. They want you to send money to someone other than themselves.
I could go on and on, with examples, but I am sure several ring a bell. If so, you are involved with an online romance scammer. You could take a few minutes and search for their online images and see if the photo appears on scam sites.
If you want to confirm if the person you are dating is real, demand a face-to-face video. If they make an excuse like the oil rig will blow up, they are on a top-secret mission, their mobile phone camera does not work, or the internet service is not good. You are being fed a bowl of lies.
If they agree to a video, it cannot be a two-minute dark video with a muffled sound. It must be a clear five-minute video where the eyes and lips move. Scammers try to be slick, and some play a looped video and speak in the background. Sometimes they will say their audio is not working. A video without sound is not a confirmation.
Ask them specific questions, request they use their finger to touch their nose. Have them show you the room they are in, out the window, and even better a copy of a newspaper or magazine. If they get upset at your request, remind them it is for your safety and peace of mind. If they cannot satisfy your curiosity, doesn't that raise a red flag or, at the very least, scream selfish. Someone who genuinely cares for you would be more than happy to jump through hoops to put you at ease.
Some scammers will place a photograph of their face and cut out the eyes and mouth. This way, you see lips moving and eyes blinking. Play detective, and pay close attention, don't be fooled by tricks. Most of all, no matter what, never send money to a person you met on the internet. You will probably never see it again..
If you feel you need help to determine if your online love is real or love scam, I can help. Prepay the service and email me the detail, like name, mobile number, background story, and photos. If you have a copy of their identification, even better. I will have the results in a few hours.
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Stop Being A Victim
There are no guarantees you can recover funds lost in a romance scam. However, that does not mean you should not try. Start by yelling and screaming to anyone and everyone who will listen to your story, be it the law, banks, or money transfer services.