I work with many men who do well in life, successful in their jobs, and some indulge in a secret life others do not know about — the sugar daddy lifestyle.
To tell you right up front, most of these relationships end in disaster, and the man becomes crippled with fear because his life is about to fall apart at the hands of a person looking for a big payday.
When men enter arrangements and extramarital affairs, they never consider the exit.
Will the person walk away when it ends?
Will the person turn into a stalker?
Fall in love?
Start blackmailing them for big money?
These are realistic situations.
You may think while you are in the relationship that it is something real.
Most of the time it is not.
It is based on money and nothing more.
That is the harsh reality many men learn too late.
The panic starts when the blackmailer begins threatening exposure.
A wife.
Children.
Coworkers.
Business partners.
LinkedIn contacts.
That is when fear takes over and men start making emotional decisions.
If you need help, I step in, take over communications, pose as you, deal directly with the threat, and work to prevent the predator from contacting your job, spouse, or family.
Do keep in mind you are dealing with a person who may know where you work and live, and that gives them access and leverage most victims never think about until the threats begin.
Frank M. Ahearn is the author of “Ashley Madison Blackmail Survival Manual: 10 Rules Before You Pay or Panic.”