Who can help me with with an extreme problem? Frank M. Ahearn is the Privacy Fixer who handles situations that appear hopeless.
Some problems are easy to explain.
You need a lawyer. You call a lawyer.
You need an accountant. You call an accountant.
But what happens when your problem doesn’t have an obvious name?
You need to disappear.
Someone is threatening to expose an affair.
You need to make yourself difficult to find.
A person you met online isn’t who they claim to be.
Someone on Grindr is threatening your marriage, career, or reputation.
You have too much personal information floating around.
You need to leave a relationship privately.
You want to move away and start over.
Or maybe you have a problem so unusual you don’t even know what kind of person can help.
You know the problem.
You just don’t know who helps with it.
That is where I come in.
Who Is Frank Ahearn?
I have spent more than three decades working with information, identity, privacy, deception, social engineering, people and problems.
I started as a skip tracer.
My job was finding people who didn’t want to be found.
I learned how people leave trails. Addresses. Telephone numbers. Relatives. Employers. Property. Habits. Relationships. Records. The small pieces of information that connect one part of a life to another.
I became very good at finding people.
Eventually, I reversed the process.
Instead of finding people, I began disappearing them.
That became the foundation of my book How to Disappear, which became a New York Times bestseller.
But disappearing people was only part of where the work took me.
Over the years, I have worked globally on unusual problems involving privacy, identity, information, deception, exposure, relationships and people who simply needed a way out.
Sometimes the problem doesn’t fit neatly into a professional category.
That’s fine.
Who Can Help Me With an Extreme Problem? Frank Fixes Problems
Frank Disappears People
Sometimes a person doesn’t want to be found.
That doesn’t necessarily mean going off the grid.
It means understanding how someone can locate you and breaking the connections that lead them there.
I spent years finding people.
Now I use that knowledge in reverse.
Who Can Help Me Disappear? Frank Disappears People
For some people, disappearing isn’t the objective. They simply need to become more difficult to locate.
That requires looking at the information, people and records that create a trail.
Who Can Help Me Become Hard to Find? Frank Makes People Difficult to Locate
Frank Makes People Private
Deleting your name from a few websites isn’t the same as becoming private.
Privacy is about controlling information.
What exists?
Where does it lead?
What connects your professional identity to your personal life?
What leads to your home?
What identifies your family?
Sometimes privacy requires removing information.
Sometimes separation.
Sometimes disinformation.
The solution depends on the problem.
Who Can Make My Information Private? Frank Makes People Private
Some people want to go further.
They don’t want every part of their online identity connected.
Who Can Help Me Become a Different Person Online? Frank Creates Identity Separation
Others want something simpler.
They want to live their lives without strangers being able to discover everything about them.
Who Can Help Me Live More Anonymously? Frank Creates Anonymous Lives
Frank Protects Private Lives
Privacy becomes even more important when wealth, business or public visibility makes someone easier to find.
A successful person may need a public identity.
Their private life is different.
Home.
Family.
Relationships.
Personal information.
Where they spend their time.
Visibility doesn’t mean strangers need access to all of it.
Who Can Help Me Keep My Wealth Private? Frank Can Keep Your Life Secret
Frank Stops Exposure
Blackmail is not simply about money.
The weapon is exposure.
A spouse.
Family.
Employer.
Clients.
Friends.
Social media followers.
Reputation.
The person making the threat identifies what you are terrified of losing and uses it against you.
My work focuses on preventing that exposure.
Who Can Stop Someone From Exposing Me? Frank Stops Exposure
Sometimes the leverage is an affair.
The person knows the consequences could be enormous and uses that fear to create control.
Who Can Help With Affair Threats? Frank Stops Affair Threats
Sometimes it begins with an app.
A Grindr conversation becomes a threat involving photographs, identity, family, marriage or career.
Who Can Stop Grindr Threats? Frank Stops Grindr Threats
Different situations.
Same objective.
Prevent exposure.
Frank Finds Out Who People Really Are
I spent years finding people.
That experience becomes useful when someone online may not be who they claim to be.
A name can be false.
A photograph can belong to someone else.
A story can be manufactured.
An online relationship can exist entirely around a person who doesn’t exist.
Sometimes you don’t need another opinion.
You need to find out who you are really dealing with.
Who Can Find Out If My Online Relationship Is Real? Frank Identifies Romance Scams
Frank Helps People Leave
Sometimes the problem isn’t hiding.
It’s leaving.
You have decided a marriage or relationship is over.
You don’t need someone to make that decision for you.
You need to figure out what happens next.
Privacy may become part of that.
So can separation, relocation and making sure the next life isn’t immediately connected to the old one.
Who Can Help Me Leave My Spouse? Frank Helps People Leave
Not every relationship involves marriage.
Sometimes you simply need another person out of your life and want to create real distance between their world and yours.
Who Can Help Me End a Relationship? Frank Helps People Get Out
Frank Helps People Start Again
Sometimes you don’t want to repair the old life.
You want another one.
A different city.
A different country.
Different people.
More privacy.
More distance.
A clean break.
Starting over isn’t simply about leaving.
It’s about deciding how much of the old life gets to follow you.
Who Can Help Me Start My Life Over? Frank Helps People Start Again
For some people, that means relocating and deliberately protecting the new location.
Who Can Help Me Move Away and Start Over? Frank Helps People Relocate Privately
Frank Helps People Disappear Internationally
Distance alone doesn’t create privacy.
You can move thousands of miles and remain completely connected to the life you left behind.
If the information follows you, someone else can follow it.
For people looking toward Europe:
Who Can Help Me Disappear in Europe? Frank Vanishes People in Europe
For Americans thinking about leaving the United States and creating a different life:
Who Can Help Me Disappear From America? Frank Disappears People
The destination isn’t the first question.
The first question is what you’re trying to leave behind.
Frank Solves Problems
My work has never followed a straight line.
I started finding people.
That taught me how information works.
Finding information taught me social engineering.
Finding people taught me how people disappear.
Disappearing people taught me privacy.
Privacy taught me the value of separation and disinformation.
Years of working directly with people taught me how fear, deception, identity and human behavior can completely change a problem.
That’s why I don’t need every problem to fit into a category.
I need to understand what is happening.
What do you want to change?
What are you trying to prevent?
What does the other person know?
Where is the weak point?
What has everyone else missed?
Then I figure out what can be done.
Who Can Help Me?
Maybe that is what you typed into Google.
You know what is wrong.
You know what you want to happen.
You just don’t know who does this kind of work.
My name is Frank M. Ahearn.
I have spent more than three decades finding people, disappearing people, finding information, using social engineering, creating privacy and solving problems that don’t always have obvious solutions.
You don’t need to know what service you need.
Tell me the problem.
I figure out what can be done.
Books by Frank M. Ahearn
My work with privacy, disappearing people, blackmail, romance scams, online relationships and finding people has also become a collection of books and survival guides.
If you would rather start by reading, choose the subject that brought you here.
Blackmail Survival Manual: 10 Rules Before You Pay or Panic
A direct survival guide for the first moments of a blackmail threat, when panic can lead to the wrong decisions.
Amazon US | Amazon Canada | Amazon Australia | Amazon UK
Blackmail Survival for Married Women: Immediate Steps to Stop the Threat
Written specifically for married women facing blackmail, exposure threats and the fear that a private situation could reach a spouse, family or professional life.
Amazon US | Amazon Canada | Amazon Australia | Amazon UK
The Romance Detective: How to Tell If He’s a Jerk, Creep, Scammer — or Married
A guide to looking beyond the online story and recognizing the warning signs that the person you are talking to may not be who they claim to be.
Amazon US | Amazon Canada | Amazon Australia | Amazon UK
The Online Dating Journal: How To Identify Online Dating Red Flags And Avoid Romance Scammers, Married Men & Creeps
A practical journal for questioning what you are being told, recognizing online dating red flags and slowing down before trust becomes vulnerability.
Amazon US | Amazon Canada | Amazon Australia | Amazon UK
How to Disappear: A Pocket Guide to Thinking, Planning, and Staying Gone
A compact guide to the thinking and planning behind disappearing, becoming difficult to locate and avoiding the mistakes that can lead someone back to you.
Amazon US | Amazon Canada | Amazon Australia | Amazon UK
How to Disappear: AI War Edition – I Am Not Your Data, Digital Starvation and the Art of Becoming Extinct
A modern look at disappearing in a world of artificial intelligence, data collection, digital prediction and constant online tracking.
Amazon US | Amazon Canada | Amazon Australia | Amazon UK
How to Disappear Journal: Seventy Of The Most Important Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Disappear
Seventy questions designed to make you think about privacy, planning, information and the problems that can destroy a disappearing strategy.
Amazon US | Amazon Canada | Amazon UK
I Was A Skip Tracer
The other side of disappearing. My stories and experiences from the years I spent finding people who didn’t want to be found.
Amazon US | Amazon Canada | Amazon Australia | Amazon UK
Sometimes you need help now. Sometimes you need information first. These books are a place to start.