What to do about blackmail, sextortion, or extortion? Not an easy question to answer, because there are different types. Online blackmail, aka sextortion, happens quickly and can be extremely aggressive. Escort and masseuse blackmail occur in person, and sometimes via text if the conversation is explicit. Relationship blackmail is the sugar daddy type where you pay for a continued relationship. Therefore, different types, different strategies.
Most law enforcement agencies suggest you ignore the blackmailer. Doing so is the worst thing you can do. If you do not take action, it is more than likely your compromised content will appear online. You may not locate today or tomorrow, but in the future, you might. Also, it might not be you who discovers the video or photos, but your spouse, child, or co-worker might.
Frank M. Ahearn is a Global Privacy Consultant and Blackmail Expert. He is author of The New York Times Bestseller, How to Disappear, and the upcoming book Lying Deceiving Misleading Disappearing.
First off, paying the blackmailer is the greatest mistake you will make. Their aggression and tactics for more money will rise tenfold. Plus, you will reveal more of your identity in the cash, bank, or app transfer. Therefore, regardless of the immediate threat, do not pay. Tell the blackmailer, you are trying to get money, and you need more time. They will be aggressive but will back off for a bit. Use the time to think clearly and act.
Second, what do they know about you? Blackmailers are savvy when it comes to extracting information. Think, do they have your email address, mobile number, social sites, work info, or family contacts? If so, these are all vulnerable points of exposure.
Third, who are you going to contact for help, and are they legitimate? Sometimes, blackmailers set up bogus companies to help victims but steal their money. Lawyers suggest sending a Cease & Desist Letter as if a blackmailer in a foreign country cares about legal action. Some data and forensic companies claim they can track and trace the online blackmailer, and then "convince them" to stop blackmailing, good luck with that.
I believe that the best tactic to stop blackmail, prevent exposure, and protect a victim's identity is by using and creating disinformation. I have handled dozens of blackmail, sextortion, and extortion cases worldwide with a 100% success rate. What separates me from others is my unique understanding and use of deception as a tool. As a skip tracer, social engineer, and privacy expert, I have worked the strangest, craziest, and most dangerous cases involving hunting people, disappearing people, and stopping blackmail and extortion. Again, I understand how deception works and know how to use it to protect victims.
What is essential and forefront in every case is preventing exposure and protecting the client's online and offline identity and privacy.
I offer phone, email, and video consultations, which provides me the opportunity to understand and evaluate your situation. This allows me to know the type of blackmailer you are dealing with and what information they have on you. From there, I create a tactic to combat. Some situations can be resolved in the initial consultation, while others need continuing consulting.
Depending on who you are, your profession, your online presence, and what the blackmailer knows about you determines if online disinformation is necessary.
I create fake online information that shields your information from future blackmail. As well as blocks the extortionist from making contact with the significant people in your life.
Relationship blackmail is when you have been with the blackmailer in person. It could be a onetime encounter with an escort, masseuse, or long-term relationship of understanding. These types of situations differ in how they threaten and are to be dealt with.
Knowing the type of extortionist you are dealing with is crucial. Some escorts toss out threats to earn a little extra cash, others make a living by playing both ends. Sometimes the encounter was a setup from the get-go. What needs to be determined is if the escort is working alone or with an organized group?
Does the escort have your mobile number, email address, or credit card? Was your wallet, briefcase, laptop, or mobile phone left unattended? Is it possible they could have taken a picture or video without your knowledge? Also, blackmail is not limited to compromising personal content but proprietary business information.
Since the COVID lockdown, there has been an increase in the selling of silence. Such comes at the hand of the person you had a "discreet relationship" with; they reach out and asks for financial help. The request is usually a simple ask, but if you do not comply, the selling of silence begins with something personal, like mentioning of your spouse’s name, you employer, or photo secretly taken.
What goes on behind closed doors is not strictly sexual, at times a dark act of personal therapy occurs. While unwinding one can unwittingly share names, stories, and other identifiable. No one thinks the person before them is keeping a rainy-day dossier. The lock-down has become the rainy day for many an opportunity to cash in chips, create a new business. Blackmail is not always about photos or videos but indiscreet texts, proofs of payment, family details, social standing, and business position. The selling of silence has become a lucrative opportunity to make up for lost earnings.
The testing the waters begins with a small favor, like help with a mobile phone bill, or one month's rent. It tests your reaction. If you send a payment, the big hit is coming next, and it could be five or ten large, if you do not adhere, The "request" is then joined with something embarrassing or potentially damaging. The thing that buckles the knees and makes you think, oh shit, I fucked up.
The first lesson of blackmail is if you pay once, a second request is lurking. Also, the payment made is ammunition to prove blackmail. And so too is the email or text exchange about money. Blackmailers know that paying is an act of fear, and if you pay, they know they pulled the right trigger. Every victim will face the day where they must say no, either because you are bone dry of cash, or tired of being extorted. My attitude is, act immediately, and no matter the risk, never allow anyone to own you. I say fight! If someone is trying to sell you their silence, I can fight with you, and we can kick some ass!
Relationship blackmail derives from a situation of understanding, or as some refer to it, a sugar daddy arrangement. Before breaking off such agreements, understand that it can evolve into blackmail and escalate to stalking. Ultimately you could be battling two fronts, money, and revenge.
The shock that rocks clients is when they discover how much information the other person knows about them. More than likely, your counterpart knew the end would someday arrive, and so they prepared themselves for the rainy day pay off. Done by secretly gathering your personal data, like keeping emails and texts, copies of financial transactions, photos, and videos.
One of my expertise is getting individuals and the HNWI out of relationship blackmail. If you are or have been in a situation of understanding with another, want out or need assistance. I can help.
After payment, please email me at FA@FrankAhearn.com, and INCLUDE PHONE NUMBER.
If I do not respond immediately, it means I am on a plane, or my email is in your SPAM.
Do not send money to the blackmailer, I will contact you ASAP.
After payment, please email me at FA@FrankAhearn.com.
If I do not respond immediately, it means I am on a plane, or my email is in your spam. Do not send money to the blackmailer, I will contact you ASAP.
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